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The Orange to Apple blog has been trucking along pretty steadily the past few months and I’m so proud of how much it’s grown and the work I’ve put into it. Behind the scenes over the past few months, there was a daily mental struggle going on, though. At first, I couldn’t quite explain it and had zero idea where it was coming from. There was this persistent sense of insecurity and loneliness that I just couldn’t shake. Finally, I had a true light bulb moment and realized what was bothering me… I was homesick!
I’m honestly shocked that it took me so long to feel this way, over six months! I think some time needed to pass for the dust to finally settle and realize that I had a new job, in a new city, and all of my loved ones were a thousand miles away. I think it’s enough to humble even the most self-assured of people. The shorter, colder, and darker days certainly didn’t help either.
I think in a very competitive, on-the-go city, it’s really hard to admit that you’re feeling overwhelmed. I’ve met many people here who showcase their over loaded plates like a badge of honor, maybe proving to themselves that this city isn’t too much for them after all. I, on the otherhand, have always prided myself in my easy-going personality and optimism. Those two things were great to have in Florida, but don’t always align with NYC living.
Having made the firm decision that I don’t want this city to change me, I had to think of some ways to recenter myself and find a new sense of normal, but at the same time, feel connected with home.
- Get into an exercise routine: I’m sure I don’t need to go into all of the benefits of having a consistent workout schedule. The research is everywhere! This past month, I finally decided to invest my money in myself and regularly visit a nearby yoga studio. Having those 60 to 90 minutes to get out of my head is better than anything else I’ve tried. I leave every workout feeling relaxed and accomplished. That’s been a hard feeling to come by since moving.
- Talk to your loved ones: I’ve always been extremely close with my parents and not having them close by has been tough. Just by having the briefest of chats with them, even if it’s just to tell them what I’m making for dinner, makes the distance seem shorter. Whether it’s a phone call, text, or FaceTime, the possibilities are endless to stay connected with your family and friends.
- Don’t get too into social media: On the other end of the spectrum, I think getting too wrapped up in social media can do more harm than good. Constantly seeing what my friends and favorite businesses are doing in St. Pete gives me a very big sense of missing out. For me, this is the hardest thing to get around because I am constantly wanting to know what’s happening. I wish I could take my own advice and stop peeking.
- Go outside and explore: It’s important to appreciate the new city you live in by getting out and finding what it has to offer. The fresh air will probably do you good and it’s a lot harder to worry about missing home if you’re out and about enjoying the day.
- Find a slice of home in your new city: The benefit of living in a city of over 8 million people is that, chances are, you’ll be able to find a group of people with the same roots as you. This could be through your college, a favorite sports team, or even a restaurant that reminds you of home. Whatever the spot, keep that in your pocket for the days you’re feeling homesick. For me, that has meant joining a shuffleboard league, and going to the official Florida State watch parties. I’ve even run into old friends in the process.
- Schedule an escape: The number one thing that helps me make it through the day (or work week) is knowing that I have an upcoming trip to get excited for. You might decide to go back home or venture off to somewhere new. Either way, it makes for a great escape from city life and I swear has healing powers.
I hope you find at least one or all of these tips helpful. If you’re finding yourself feeling homesick, remember that you are not alone! Be honest and let your loved ones know because there is always strength in numbers.
Love from NYC,
Katie